Hi, I would like to say that polygamy is very un-Christian! My
impression of polygamy is that is seems as if there are men there who go out
and pick a few homely women who may have self-confidence problems which
is exaclty why they allow them selves to be brainwashed and
subjected to polygamy. These polygamist men are taking advantage of these
women who could potentially grow up to be bold, successful women
full of self confidence, which is now taken away because they are now
controled by a man. Also my impression of marriage, is that when
you marry someone you are supposed to dedicate every day of your life
to that man or women. You are supposed to love them and do many things
for them. I don't see how a man with 5 wives can honestly find the
time every day to devote himself to these wives and do many things
for them. Polygamy is ridiculous and a mockory of women. All
polygamy is, is a man getting many women to do his cooking,
cleaning, childrearing and lovemaking. You are abusing the rights of women
and I feel teribbly sorry for all of those brainwashed women who are
sujected to polygamy. I totaly agree with all men and women who
disagree with polygamy." (Email received by HEM).
It is hard to say much to a person that so blindly accuses without
knowing much on the subject. Most of the comments made were out of
meaness rather than a real definitive argument. There are no
Biblical statements to back their belief. It is just ranting.
My personal opinion is quite different. I am currently not living
polygyny, but the way I see it is the women living Biblical Polygyny
aren't brainwashed at all. They are stronger for it. How much more
strength does it take to share one's husband that to keep him all for
yourself? How much more strength does it take to risk everything to
live what you believe? How much more strength does it take to go
away from the 'brainwashing' of society and follow Yahweh's word?
Polygamist women are not weak, they are strong. And as for time
spent with their husband being divided...well sure there might be
less sex, but if you are following Levitical cleanliness law then it
actually fits into polygyny beautifully. Thus you would still be
having sex as much as normal. (Providing you are following that law,
that is). Besides marriage, whether monogamous or polygynous. DOES NOT
revolve around sex! How much greater is the time spent with multiple
wives and the husband strengthening and encouraging each other to
grow spiritually?! For example...How much more deeply challenging
Bible discussions and studies would be? As a poly wife you may not
have a ton of individual time, but then again...I would think the
other wives would also free up time too.
As for whether the female rights are being abused....in my personal
case I am the one who brought the subject up to my husband a few
months ago. I had encountered a friend online who encouraged the
study. I studied it and was shocked to find myself agreeing with
it. Then I told my dh [dearest heart]. Before that he didn't know anything about it
and was hesitant for a time to even study about it. Now we agree,
and our marriage has changed DRAMATICALLY for the better. Hopefully
one day we will be living polygyny as well, Yahweh willing that is.
Anyway I would caution that person not 'down' polygyny without even
looking at it with open eyes...without even looking at the Bible for
answers.... It is hard to disagree with something you know nothing
about. Anyway, just my rambling thoughts.
In Yah'shua (Jesus),
Zipporah
Author: ZW