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    Child Raising
    by Edwin Morris

        Yesterday’s dropout is viewed as a shining light today by those who have forgotten the basic rules of courtesy — which seems to be running at about 90% of the population.

        In an age where our moral and social rules have been systematically undermined by well thought-out Marxist social engineering bent on dumbing down the western world — it is hard to resist the downward pull.

        The advent of the feminist revolution and the U.N. "Rights of the Child" have wrought havoc in a nation caught totally be surprise, by their fellow countrymen who sprung the dumb down trap.

    The Way It Was

        Nobody with an unbiased head, having lived for at least 45 years would suggest life has ever been perfect in our lifetime. There was, however, a time not so long ago when good standards did exist in most homes.

        Australia back then had a high proportion of Bible-believing folk who lived by fairly sound principles of courtesy and respect, and fostered healthy moral values in society. Some of the values entrenched in society were as follows:

    • Men were addressed by their surname; i.e: ‘Mr. Brown’, or ‘Mr. Smith’ — or they were referred to as ‘Sir’, with respect.

    • Married women were referred to by the term ‘Mrs.’, as in ‘Mrs. Brown’, or ‘Mrs. Smith’. A wife’s mail was sent in her husband’s name, with Mrs. denoting that the letter was from, or addressed to the woman of the house.

    • It was a common thing for a son, or sons to work with their father, and for daughters to stay at home and help their mother.

    • Any man wishing to take a young lady out would take her out with a chaperone — often a brother, to protect her honour.

    • Children would address their parents, and their parent’s friends and associates, with respect, not just with a ‘Yes’, or ‘No’, but a "Yes, Mrs. Brown", or "No, Mr. Brown". Appreciation was taught to the young so that thanks was given politely, and courtesy was the norm.

    • For men and women, their respective roles were enough to bring satisfaction in itself. No takeaways or supermarkets, no computers or pokies, no videos or drugs were required to achieve happiness. Good health, happy marriage, obedient children, a simple home and enough to eat equalled happiness, because respect, courtesy and the satisfaction of family life was enough.

        Today’s western society is in utter chaos in comparison to the way it was (even though, as mentioned, life back then had its problems).

        Now, with all the "rights" movements, university degrees, instant gratification schemes, instant divorces, high-speed travel, and almost everything that opens and shuts — almost nobody is truly happy.

        How many people do you see smiling in a supermarket? And if you smile at them, they look at you sideways wondering what you want. There seems to be a guilt thing happening, and not surprisingly, when most mothers have abdicated their role as a true mother, as most men have likewise abdicated their role as providers and protectors. Our permissive society has bred a divorce-riddled world of self-seeking, hard-hearted people on a direct flight to Hell. So perverted has our education system become that it is not a viable option. Almost all children who go through today’s education system are corrupted.

        So what does the family man do? Where does he go?

        Gone are the good manners, the courtesy, the respect; and in its place is almost a ‘survival of the fittest’ mentality that by its very nature results in many casualties of this competition.

    In contrast, the ways of God that have been deliberately abandoned in favour of humanism and the pursuit of self at the expense of marriage, family, peace and happiness.

    The Only Way

        Those who seek to pull our society down have put in place devilish plans, for they intend to build an evil empire out of the ruins of our once God-fearing society.

        "We make war against all prevailing ideas of religion, of the state, of country, or patriotism. The idea of God is the keynote of a perverted civilisation. It must be destroyed."Karl Marx – Marx & Satan (Richard Wurmbrand) Pg. 59

        "We have to use any ruse, dodge, trick, cunning, unlawful method, concealment, and veiling of the truth. The basic rule is to exploit the conflicting interests of the capitalist states."

    Vladimir Lenin – Marx & Satan (Richard Wurmbrand) Pg. 59

        "Atheism is an integral part of Marxism. Marxism is materialism. We must combat religion. This the ABC of materialism and consequently of Marxism."

    Vladimir Lenin – Marx & Satan (Richard Wurmbrand) Pg. 59

        "One tenth gets personal liberty and unlimited rights over the other nine tenths. These must lose their personality and turn into a kind of herd. They will engage in spy work. Each member of society will spy on the other and will be obliged to denounce ..... All are slaves and are equal in slavery" Netchaiev – Marx & Satan (Richard Wurmbrand) Pg. 96

        "We’ve combined youth, music, sex, drugs, and rebellion with treason — and that’s a combination hard to beat."Jerry Rubin – Marx & Satan (Richard Wurmbrand) Pg. 30

        The mess we find ourselves in is a carefully constructed one, designed to destroy our entire culture, our national identity, our industry, our social values and our religion.

        We are witnesses to a deliberate collapse of our society in this age. Unless we are aware of the deliberate nature of our collapse, we will continue to raise children for the Devil to harvest.

        Our calling is to beat the Devil and raise Godly offspring for the Lord, but in this hostile environment — how do we do it?

        Quite frankly, we have to completely start from the beginning and build on a solid foundation. We cannot continue to patch up and make do with standards that are alright according to this world’s standards. This has been the problem with the so-called Christian church teachers. They have allowed the churches to become worldly. It is time to turn our backs on those who have betrayed us and to build up the flock of the Lord according to His high standard.

    Reconstructing The Family

        In the wake of the Marxist feminist revolution, man (who is made in the image of God) has been pushed aside, and woman (who was deceived by the serpent) has been uplifted, thus inverting the order of God.

        "But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God." (1st Corinthians 11:3)

        If we are going to rebuild the family according to God’s standard, we must first re-establish the office of man as the heart of the home. The strength of a nation is subject to the integrity, wisdom and moral fibre of the menfolk.

        To raise children to a Godly standard, one must have a stable environment, the cornerstone of which is a Father who rules his home with a wise mix of discipline and love.

        A Godly woman, is vital to the success of any man’s family. By her actions, she can make or break any relationship. If she allows herself to possess an independent and contrary spirit to her husband, she will create at the very least a burden for her husband. If she also undermines his authority, she will almost certainly bring shipwreck to the relationship. On the other hand, if she applies herself to diligently follow the ways of the Lord, and to be a companion, not a competitor, then God’s peace shall almost certainly be with that house.

        As for the children, they need to learn respect for their elders. The best method, having taught the Scriptures to the young, is the spank-and-thank method. Spank the offender if they do not obey, and thank them for being good with they do good. And be consistent.

    Ground Rules

        It’s all well and good to praise and punish — but what about the rules of the home? Without sensible Godly rules and firm and fair parents, there is no point in looking at punishment or reward.

    Ground Rule 1:

    The wife must see that she respects her husband as head of a patriarchal home. She should submit to her husband as her husband also submits to Christ

    "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
    "For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
    "Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing."
    (Ephesians 5:22–24)
    "Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband." (Ephesians 5:33)

    2:

    The husband should know that he "...is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man." (1st Corinthians 11:7) He must come to understand that he has been given the potential to be like God. To rule over his household as God rules over His, with enormous love, mixed with Godly guidelines and correction that are applied in fairness and kindness, thus bringing stability and peace to the home. But remember, fathers; "...provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord." (Ephesians 6:4)

    3:

    Children should obey their parents.
    "Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.
    "Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;)
    "That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth."
    (Ephesians 6:1–3)

    Now How To Make It Work

        If a man is not undermined by his wife, and he takes responsibility for the direction of his household, then unity between both husband and wife establishes a vital consistency. Rules can be put in place that have two to see that justice is done. Some good tips in raising a child or children are:

    1: Make the rules clear on each aspect of life that the child may find itself in (i.e: where not to play or go, etc.)

    2: Establish from the earliest age possible a sense of responsibility (i.e: train the child to put things away in a box, etc.)

    3: Train up your child properly. Reward for good works. Punish for bad works. It’s that simple. Give plenty of hugs and cuddles, but when disobedience comes, any spanking should be given so that it really hurts, or it is a useless tool in your hand.

    4: Set the standard — and stick to it. If you do not want a child to whinge — don’t allow it — ever; even if it means an instant smack to re-establish that behavioural boundary.
        The same goes with wrong language, wrong body language, and wrong attitudes. All unacceptable behaviour must be dealt with by means of explanations initially, then any transgression must be addressed immediately if at all possible.

    5: Give your children (no matter how small) duties, for they are members of the family team, and must learn to contribute. Without becoming a lieutenant, make sure each job is done. If it is not done — punishment must take place (although mercy is always the exception to the rule if there is any good reason why the job is not done).

    6: Call parents by the title of Father and Mother, or Dad and Mum, but avoid allowing children to use parent’s Christian names, as this will work against respect and stability in the home.

    7: Always set the standard for dress, with no exceptions. For girls, a modest dress code does not mean you can be immodest sometimes by wearing shorts, etc.

    8: Establish through the Scriptures that the role of boy and girl, and thus man and woman, are totally different, even to the point where God does not allow similar clothes to be worn by the opposite sexes; "The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman's garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the LORD thy God." (Deuteronomy 22:5)

    9: Do not allow your children to mix often with ungodly children, or much of your good work may come undone very quickly.

    10: Talk about safety regularly. Point out unsafe and safe practices around the house.

    11: Teach your children to speak gently, for the heathen rage on and are loud — not the people of God. Girls ought follow the gentle speech of the Mother, imitate her ways, and the boys ought follow the gentlemanly ways of the Father, and imitate his ways. Girls should not imitate the speech pattern of the Father, for he is a man, and will use different inflections and mannerisms, and even words, than the mother. All should imitate what is holy.

    12: Any slight rebelliousness must be nipped in the bud. Do not think it will go away by itself, or that he or she will just grow out of it. The truth is, what you see is what you get most times, unless chastisement takes place. There is a Godly mould. If a young one moves out of that mould, it is the duty of both the father and the mother to return that child to the mould in love, and if necessary (which it is, quite often) with the rod of correction [1], or other methods. We train horses and dogs by establishing our requirements in the mind of those animals. We human beings are not different. If we do not train up a dog in the way we want it to go, it will become a problem when it grows up. The same goes for a child. I know it sounds a little cruel to compare a dog with a child, but we are dealing with principles here. If we fail to train up a child in the way it should go when it is young (between 1 and when it gets married) then both the child and the parent will be the poorer.

    13: Do not endure shopping centre tantrums. There is always a quiet place where a smack can be delivered...

    14: Do not be intimidated by others who mock or criticise you. It is your duty to raise Godly offspring. If others want to use methods that don’t work — let them, but do not be intimidated to change from doing what works. I am a father of seven, and what I am relating to you is not a theory.

    15: Teach your children that they are a part of a team. A team where all work for the common cause, to be Good for God.

        All these principles are sound advice based on the word of God.

        Teach your children that if they want a good husband or wife, they themselves must be good. Finally, spend time to be close, to talk about things and to play some games with your children occasionally. Tell your children how much you love them. Do not be frightened to chasten, for this is like turning the rudder of a ship. Without chastening, there is little hope of a Godly outcome. Love, chastening, discipline and compassion go hand in hand in making a good parent. Remember, the Father must be the Lawgiver, and the Mother must be his companion in the cause. If unity prevail, and these simple principles are applied in life, then Godly offspring should result, with few exceptions.

        May you then have the strength of commitment to make any necessary changes in your life, and the strength to be consistent.

        Pray always for Godly wisdom. Be gentle, but firm. Be loving, but chasten. Be brave, and submit entirely to the ways of the Lord and see if He does not bless you greatly. Though this world is being manipulated by evil forces, walk humbly and gracefully in the midst of it all, and raise Godly offspring to the Lord, for we who love the law and commandments of the Lord in the right spirit are His people, and it is required of us.

    Remember: 

    "Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it." (Proverbs 22:6)

    "He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes." (Proverbs 13:24) [1]

    "Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him." [1] (Proverbs 22:15)

    "Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.
    "Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell." [rod]
    (Proverbs 23:13–14)

    "...A wise son maketh a glad father: but a foolish son is the heaviness of his mother." (Proverbs 10:1)

    "But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea." (Matthew 18:6)

    "And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart:

    "And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up." (Deuteronomy 6:7)

        Also consider that every child that is raised according to the discipline of God will probably be a soul that will inherit eternal life. Child-rearing therefore is one of the highest callings for man. It is a calling that is the cutting edge of our faith, for if we fail to raise Godly offspring, we have probably fallen short ourselves in many areas.

        Not only that, but we have caused our young ones to suffer needlessly because of our slackness. It’s time we who profess to be children of God start to deal with our own children in the righteous way that God deals with His children.

        I pray that this article will motivate you to be more diligent in the raising of your children.

        May God bless you.

    HEM Commentary

    [1] For clarification on what HEM understands 'rod-correction' to mean, see Abusive Discipline: What the Bible Does Not Teach

    Author: EM

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    First created on 10 June 2001
    Updated on 23 June 2016

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