THE LOOK OF LOVE
by Martin R. De Haan II
Every day for 20 years, Antonio wrote a love poem to his wife. At a divorce hearing, he revealed that he didn't compose these verses to celebrate the joys of marriage but to pacify his domineering wife. The judge granted the divorce  and declared that the marriage had nothing more to it than a "look of love".
Relationships among some Christians often undergo a similar kind of breakdown. Long-hidden resentment finally comes to the surface as pretences drop away. A spouse leaves after years of a supposedly happy marriage, saying he or she is tired of putting up a good front and going through the motions.
In 1 John 3 we read that we are not to "love in word or in tongue, but in deed and truth" (v.18). Cain's "love" for his brother Abel covered a simmering jealosy that eventually broke forth in anger (v.12). And we all know the tragic end to that story (Gen.4:8).
Whether in marriage or in our relationships woth fellow believers, resentment and separation are sure to surface if love is incincere. Instead of presenting a "look of love", let's take seriously the challenge to "let love be without hypocricy" (Rom.12:9).
When love is feigned and words are false,
Though outwardly it doesn't show,
Resentment simmers in the heart,
And seeds of hate begin to grow.
LOVE THAT IS TRUE DOES NOTHING FALSE
This secular court judge's decision to grant a divorce does not mean that this is a legitimate ground for divorce biblically-speaking. A Christian behaving in such a manner should repent and make his/her marriage right.
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